Adolescent anger management is a necessary step for some teens who have failed to understand the effects of their ire on family members and on members of society. Many teachers in today's public school system in America are quick to acknowledge that many junior high and high school students are carrying anger issues in unparalleled ways. Many students are unafraid of threatening teachers and administrators over seemingly insignificant matters, and fights even between females are common place in school as well as those detailed on YouTube videos. Many parents are actually physically afraid of their children and seek as many opportunities as possible not to anger the children, even to the point of allowing self destructive behavior. Adolescents find themselves facing issues never before confronted in history, and the professionals who are tasked with adolescent anger management must have an intimate understanding of those issues.
The experts that work with young teens will remind us that adolescents are in the first of several hinge times in life. These hinge times are usually when the desire for independence from parents begins to develop as well as moving out for good, getting married and beginning a family and perhaps the empty nest years. And if we are all honest, adults don't always handle these hinge times well either. But for the pre and early teen, they are beginning to feel that parents are keeping them from self expression, they are learning how relationships work and don't work, and they are faced with wondering where and how they fit into the scheme of life. And more than ever before in history, these individuals are being told by the media that the definition of success is based on physical perfection and the possession of riches. The realization that flawless beauty for most is not attainable and money is not easy to come by provides a convenient platform for low self esteem, doubt and worry. All of these complicated issues are a resentment Petri dish and adolescent anger management is an important needed response for many teens.
Most adults will probably agree that their teen years are filled with memories of angry days. It is a natural part of growing and parents shouldn't come unglued at routine episodes. But experts who provide adolescent anger management list some signs that the ire is beyond the usual realm of teen expression. A young person, who begins to become openly defiant of requests by others, demeans parents and others who are in authority and may have actually put holes in walls and doors has a resentment problem beyond ordinary boundaries. Adolescent anger management is required for a teen that has uncontrollable fits of rage or may physically cruel to animals and initiates fights with others. But the other side of explosive anger is anger turned inward, which often is expressed in depression. A loner, who has trouble expressing emotions, is rarely talkative, having few friends and who may appear as a doormat until some final triggering event sets off violent behavior also needs adolescent anger management.
Before a parent puts a great deal of blame on the teen, the wise dad and mom will take the advice of the Bible. "And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonitions of the Lord." (Ephesians, 6:1) Now the verse is addressed to fathers, and it's true, dads are often the first to blow up with an unruly child, but in this culture moms and dads must both live the examined life. Do I do things such as being unreasonable or am I inconsistent in the way I treat my children are great questions to ask oneself. Many parents display undisciplined anger themselves and then wonder why their children do the same. Adolescent anger management, if handled correctly, will also help parents to look at their own anger issues and ways to display positive examples to their children.
Adolescent anger management classes or group therapy will cover the same basic issues no matter where the instruction is given. One of the most important issues to be tackled is helping a teen to get better at handling problems. Role playing and examining actually situations for constructive alternatives can help young people look at situations in ways not considered before. Giving them resources for finding answers to particular dilemmas can go a long way towards defusing an angry spirit. Teaching them to also understand what issues send them ballistic is also a key step in managing destructive behaviors. Adults are often able to recognize when they are entering choppy emotional waters and can either steer clear or identify anger triggers. Giving teens these same abilities are important for maintaining a more balanced emotional life.
A lot of people, both adults and teens will give the excuse that when someone pushes the right buttons they go crazy and there is nothing they can do about it. That excuse for an uncontrollable rage is symptomatic of American culture. Few of any people actually want to take personal responsibility for their actions. But in fact the heart and soul of cognitive therapy, an important part of anger management counseling, is grounded in getting the client to accept the fact that his emotions and reactions to those emotions are a decision. In many ways, that understanding of personal responsibility goes back to the training and upbringing received from parents. A parent who can admit wrong and ask for forgiveness from his or her children on a regular basis is a strong deterrent to an enraged and uncontrolled teen.